Is attachment possible without bonding?

Sir; 

This refers to your question-Is attachment possible without bonding?

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To the extent my knowledge that I may have of this subject enveloped by metaphysics I feel that any bonding is the outcome of the 'connection'.

if prolonged it develops into what we call contact though the latter may not be confined to it being merely physical.

 In many a case this contact is virtual also or existing at the level of चेतना. 

The prolonged contact is converted into 'association' before it solidifies to what we call 'bonding' which may be feeble, weak or strong according to the degree of attachment.

Some associations are formed out of providence while many of these are designed.

If an association formed with a view to realise mutual interests of physical needs gets fulfilled dissociations set in. 

In that case 'attachment' does not arise. 

We come in contact with a number of people on a daily basis yet we don't remain attached to them in anyway; it's our everyday experience.

      But in case of 'bonding' the association may remain even after the fulfilment of the physical purpose for which it was formed gets accomplished. 

 Even bonding are of different types.

Bonding between a wife and husband. 

Bonding between two friends.

Bonding between two players that yields a better play outcome.

We may say that they are attached to each other.

Here also attachment is there but existing more at the level of interacting souls than at the level of the body. It's merely recognition of two minds of some sort of mutual positivities of ours. 

But if the bonding reaches such a level that it develops desires to link one's very physical existence to that bonding then 'attachment' comes in picture. 

This type of bonding borne attachment is 'dependency', 'cravings' and 'possessiveness' and insistence to remain glued to that bonding in any case. 

A man then always dwells in his mind on the objects of sense. And **THIS IS ATTACHMENT which is dangerous.* 

When this attachment of 'possessiveness' in respect of relationship or ownership of property becomes stronger the tendency to retain, preserve, augment such possession of relationship or property keeps on multiplying. 

 *This is Desire.*

An unfulfilled desire gives rise to anger. From anger arises bewilderment from bewilderment loss of memory and from loss of memory, the destruction of intelligence and from destruction of intelligence (बुद्धिनाश)he perishes.

The above proposition is said in the verse of Shrimadbhawadgita.

ध्यायतो विषयान्पुंस:(always thinking of विषय that is a relationship/property) सङ्गस्तेषूपजायते।(Prolonged virtual or real contact driven bonding)

सङ्गात्सञ्जायते काम:(from bonding to desire)कामात्क्रोधऽभिजायते(from non fulfillment of desire to birth of anger)।।(२/६२)

क्रोधाद्भवति सम्मोह:(from anger to loss of capacity to choose which is wrong or right) सम्मोहात्स्मृतिविभ्रम:।(From Inability to decide to loss of memory)

स्मृतिभ्रंशाद् बुद्धिनाशो(from loss of memory to destruction of intelligence)बुद्धिनाशात्प्रणश्यति(from destruction of intelligence to सर्वनाश (perish)।।(२/६३)

From the above discussion I am led to conclude that 

1. Not all bondings are capable of generating attachment. 

2. Only such types of bonding are capable of generating attachments as are not guided by intellect.

3. However any attachment is not possible without bonding.

4. Only such attachments are destructive of intelligence as are irrigated by the desires of lower orders. 

इस प्रकार बुद्धि द्वारा नियंत्रित Bonding से आसक्ति(attachment) उत्पन्न होना प्रायः असम्भव है क्योंकि वह परिणाम को यथारूप स्वीकार कर आगे बढ़ती है. 

बुद्धि से निरपेक्ष बोन्डिंग आसक्ति उत्पन्न करती है जो अनिष्टकारी होती है क्योंकि वह बुद्धि पर हमला करती है. बुद्धि के घायल होने पर विवेकहीनता की स्थिति उत्पन्न होती है क्योंकि विवेक बुद्धि का उत्पाद है.

इस प्रकार बुद्धिनाश सर्वनाश की ओर ले जाती है.

With my limited reach on the subject I hope I have answered your question to the extent of some satisfaction of yours.

Disclaimer-The above piece of writing does not ipso facto mean that the writer of above lines is बुद्धिमान to the extent of keeping away 'मोह' away in matters of daily dealings of life.

 He too is affected every now and then by the failings of intellect that obscures his decision.

Regards.

R.R.Prabhakar.

18.05.2026.