How to enhance one's humane values in life.

Were there any scientific law to measure humane value of an individual,I think, that would have been as follows:

                      Humane value of an individual is directly proportional to his willingness to help every other individuals multiplied by the capacity of that Individual to help others around him. 

               Be that as it may our value as a human being should not get impaired by our immature conduct. Despite being professionally competent it is not unusual to find someone who is not given his due for reasons of his immature behaviour.

I suppose that much of mature behaviour depends upon learning the art of giving response to a situation.

Quality of Response(QR) and Response Time(RT) are very important in any scientific experiments. Likewise in our professional life too;'QR' and 'RT' not only serve as key to professional dealings but it also enables one to learn/gain maturity in any conversation or dealings in our society in general and work place in particular.

                               Whether to speak or not; if yes; then when to speak, when to stop,how to speak, how not to speak, how much to speak, how often to speak,where to speak are some aspects that can hint at how important the Quality of Response(QR)"and "Response Time(RT)" are or could be. 

To save a situation or to prevent it from degeneration or to gain from the situation are simply, mathematically observing, only functions of these 'QR' and 'RT'; I suppose. 

 A little reflection would suggest that our value in life depends much upon these QR and RT. For; they make us learn being mature. When I use the term 'mature' it should never mean being fraudulently mature or cunning, which in any case is an object of deprecation.

Anyway, here are some points with respect to"QR" in the form of some "Do's" and "Don'ts" that occur in my mind.

RT is self-explanatory; therefore, within acceptable RT these points when practised can help enhance one's value not only in the society one lives in but also in the organisation one is employed with.

                 However, writings below can never be taken to mean that I have accumulated in myself those human virtues; nevertheless the importance of these virtues can never suffer even if the whole of humanity lacks them.

I would consider my labour duly redeemed if anyone having gone through find it useful to some extent.

Some Don't- 

In my opinion "Don'ts" are more important than"Do's".You may at worst lose the possible gains associated with these "Do's" if you happen to ignore them but not heeding to the 'Don'ts'harms one quite differently yet substantially. So being well conversant with 'Don'ts',I feel,is more important than being so with "Dos" for understandable reasons as explained above. Of course this should not be taken to mean that 'Do's' are unimportant for the purpose of being behaviorally mature.

                                "Don'ts''

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1. Don't scoff at a person or situation or condition- 

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I believe that even though the occasion tempts you to do so, refrain from doing so. Don't scoff or deride at anyone. Scoffing,I know from experience,is anathema.It backfires subsequently. Don't deride at anyone. Instead of gaining anything out of this temptation,you lose your image, respect and value all considerably and irreparably. By derisive remarks and the words so chosen for that one unconsciously puts oneself only in poor light rather than the person targeted by such remark. Today social media is laden with highly objectionable and degrading comments on any event or person or leader. You mistakenly believe that by such witty and sarcastic remarks people will consider you witty and intelligent. But that is not the case.You are taken as a man of poor taste and image.You should not forget such posts demean your personality as well as your inner worth.

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2.Don't criticize unnecessarily;as a matter of habit, out of political or personal grudge and that too like a crusader.

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This type of criticism is readily recognised to be born out of one's personal dislikes based on political affiliation rather than it being based on unbiased analysis.

Thanks to social media everyone knows everything about everyother ones. So why to criticize under the belief that I am doing a good job to awaken people by choosing words that hurt? Instead of getting any credit it goes on to devalue your personal worth. 

It doesn't mean that one should not criticize, but one must be appropriate and mild and shun sarcastic approach while doing so. 

I know many who are hyperactive in the social media. Political ideologies,beliefs and actions of some politicians don't conform to their's. The result-They make caustic remarks on politicians they detest or abhor. They do so under the impression that they are exposing hypocrisy of sorts adopted by these politicians but they forget that everybody knows everything. Nothing out of this endeavour gets revealed that one does not know or is unaware of. Whereas you think you are doing a good job the upshot is that there ensues a steep deprecation of your image and value in the eyes of others. 

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3.Dont be arrogant even when you are correct or justified by the situation you are put to.

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Some people beam with confidence to the extent that it is identified as arrogance or hubris. People shirk your presence and you become a lone fellow made captive in your own bastion of thoughts and high notion which are ultimately of little consequence.

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4.Don't end up merely as a man of knowledge but finish as a man of positive,peaceful and compassionate Actions. 

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People of knowledge giving free advice are many around you. But you may not easily find a man of actual help despite moving miles from your home. So if you can't help don't develop the habit of giving advice.Mere "Advice''without being accompanied with"help" is mostly irritating to the many. 

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5.Don't prevaricate 

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One should not take recourse to prevarication while answering or giving reply to anyone in an attempt to befool or mislead the latter. It dents your value. Your credentials become clouded thereby. I hold the one smart who is innocent in his reply and dealings with others 

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6. Don't argue about one's religious belief and practice even though they appear to you unscientific, irrational or bogus. 

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Everyone has his/her own way to connect with the supreme which should not be questioned nor own's faith be asked to be justified.

In the first place you are not entitled to do so no matter how great your rational thinking power may have been.Secondly you offend the people on the other side unnecessarily. Argument or playing one- upmanship makes you reach ultimately nowhere. It often proves costly in more ways than one without any gain whatsoever.

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7. Don't be a name dropper

Never talk about your power, position, connection if any to anyone. It is height of immaturity to say the least.

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 People don't feel good even though they appear to take interest in listening to your boastful talks. You unconsciously devalue yourself.

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(8) Don't procrastinate-

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There is a Shloka in Sanskrit-दीर्घसूत्री विनश्यति.

Procrastination kills you .It demolishes cruelly your plans of success. Procrastination means undue delay in translating your decision into actions. Procrastination earns bad reputation. It should be shunned. 

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(9) Don't waste your time unnecessarily- Maintaining majority or circle often vitiates character. 

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                                --Do's--

* Be accessible- to gain distinction borne out of position,experience or expertise should never breed arrogance in your approach.Being accessible in the neighborhood or in the organisation for the purpose of rendering possible help to those who are in need of it works wonders subsequently in more ways than one. By helping others you earn the blessings of God and others; you become 'great' from 'big'. 

** Be particular to encourage good habits, conduct or achievements of others. 

While you encourage your juniors or others for their commendable actions or achievements your own value goes to soar high.

***Be punctual- Honour time. Some day time will honor you. Your punctuality spreads positivity around you. People around you will get influenced by your punctual behaviour.

**** Be a child in terms of innocence-Childlike simplicity is a virtue. Innocence is a godly virtue dear to the almighty. Those who we know are great are simple and innocent by heart.God repays their innocence by making them great.

*****Be Humble and polite

 The more one becomes successful the more is it necessary that one must be genuinely humble. Humbleness should not be used as a ruse. Humility is a virtue,not a mere quality.

It is the beauty of character that many a man lacks deplorably. It is a matter of great concern that humility is seen to give way to hubris with the slightest gain in power,pelf and position.

R.R.Prabhakar.

15.05.2021.